One of the biggest obstacles for the guys who are in need of attraction help is MINDSET.  They grew up not getting any attention from women, and they just can't "get" that a woman might actually reciprocate their interest. 

   If you're finding that your biggest block is your own mind, then read closely. 

   First off, I want to tell you a story.  I've known this friend of mine for three years.  Let's call him Bob for sake of ease.  Now, Bob was an engineer and spent most of his life in front of a computer.  Professionally, he was a success, but personally he was a mess.  Girls just didn't dig Bob.  He was tall, skinny, pale, and was a bit of a misanthrope who claimed that he didn't need anyone. 

   As a result - you guessed it - Bob had NO social life. 

   For guys like this, being self-sufficient is actually a highly evolved defense mechanism.  Bob had fallen hopelessly in love with enough girls who rejected him that his answer was to not like ANYONE at all.  No girl could measure up to his standards.  He briefly "tried" online dating only to claim that there were only two or three girls in the entire city who interested him. 

   How in the world could someone like Bob break through his own mental barriers to meeting women and start attracting some action into his life?

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TIP #1: "Admit what it is that you REALLY want." 

   A lot of guys pretend to themselves - and others - that they only want the perfect girl.  She has to be this, she has to be that, and most importantly she has to fit into a guy's life AS IT IS.  He isn't going to change for anyone, least of all for a woman. 

   But the funny thing about guys like Bob is that what they really want isn't the perfect woman. 

   What they REALLY want, deep down, is... 

   ...To be loved. 

   "Love"?  You've got to be joking! 

   But all those hard edges on Bob - all those claims to "not need anyone" and that no girl was good enough for him - were just masking a more fundamental human need: the need to love and be loved unconditionally. 

   Like pretty much all of us, Bob's social life was being affected by some pretty deep childhood experiences. His early experiences taught him that no one loved him in the way he really wanted to be loved.  As a result, he learned that HE was the only person he could rely on. 

   Now, I'm not asking YOU to go that deep.  All I'm saying is that sometimes what you think you want - e.g., the "perfect girl" - isn't actually what you want. 

   Sometimes what you want is someone to hug and hug you back.

   Sometimes what you want is someone who smiles radiantly at the sight of you.

   Sometimes what you want is just to feel like someone cares about the real you, no matter how many mistakes you make. 

   And you don't have to go to therapy to figure these things out.  All it takes is admitting them to yourself. 

TIP #2: "Let go of who you think you are." 

   What trips a lot of guys up is the fact that they IDENTIFY with being the kind of guy that girls will reject. 

   For Bob, part of his identity was being the "lone wolf."  If he actually got a girlfriend, he'd have to give up that part of himself.  So, subconsciously, he actually sabotaged any opportunity he got to make friends with someone in order to keep himself isolated and aloof. 

   If you've always been the guy who makes girls laugh but not lust ... if you've always been the guy who's a girl's friend but never her boyfriend ... if you've always been the guy who doesn't get the girl ... then it's time to let go of who you think you are. 

   That person isn't you. 

   That person WAS who you WERE in the past.  But today's a new day.  Your history doesn't define you.  You can let go of all of that and make a fresh start as the person you were BORN to be. 

   What would it feel like to be the kind of person that girls liked, naturally and effortlessly? 

   What would it feel like to be the kind of person that didn't have to worry about attracting women, because he had enough female attention? 

   Can you imagine it? 

   That's your birthright.  That's your new identity.  Let go of the old crap and really "get" that you're someone who attracts girls just by being yourself. 

TIP #3: "Talk about it." 

   One of the most exciting things I've seen happen as a result of the men's seduction community is that guys are finally talking about these topics OUTSIDE of the locker room. 

   For the first time, they're talking honestly about what happens when they're rejected.  They're able to see mistakes and learn from them without taking it personally.  They're realizing that women are human beings just like they are. 

   If you're finding it a challenge to attract the kind of girls you like, then start talking through what you're having problems with.  Join an internet forum and post under an anonymous name if you feel uncomfortable. Share the books you're reading and the information you're learning with your friends.  

   Talking about this stuff gets it out into the open and helps you realize that you're not "weird" or "defective" in any way.  Look, very few guys are naturals at attracting girls, but EVERY guy can learn.  There's nothing embarrassing about being in the process of learning.  A student is just a master-in-training. 

THE END OF THE STORY 

   You know, this stuff takes time.  It's the guys who get frustrated quickly when they don't get what they want with a snap of the finger who drop out and never see any results. 

   You've got to COMMIT to wanting to change.  You've got to not let any setbacks or temporary feelings of self-doubt keep you from going out there and getting what you want out of life. 

   And that's what I admire about Bob.  When I first knew him, he was a grumpy old git.  It took just about a year - a very painful, awkward, emotional year from his perspective - for him to go from someone who'd never had a girlfriend to someone who was dating the hottest brunette barista in the city.  Bob certainly never
thought he'd make it, but he did. 

   And you can, too. 

   Just stay focused, stay committed, and say goodbye to all that crap that's been keeping you from attracting girls. 

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